Qualities of a Good Teacher

Being a teacher is a skill.  Being a good teacher requires even more.  Since I am a martial arts instructor I have seen many teachers of the martial arts who have been horrible teachers, and I have seen those who have been great teachers.  Also, being a college graduate (Bachelor of Arts in Writing with a minor in Sociology) I have had some great professors and some not so great professors.

My entire life through school I have had some awesome teachers who were great role models as well as those who were just there for a paycheck. Since I teach martial arts to all ages (4 and up), this article is going to be focused on martial arts instructors and what it takes to be a great teacher of the martial arts.

The reality is, just because you are a black belt doesn’t mean you can teach; and just because you can teach doesn’t mean you are a “good” teacher.  The five primary things required to be a good martial arts instructor are: passion, charisma, personality, patience, and education.  Aside from those five, the instructor must lead by example by being a good role model.  There are other things that will certainly help, but if the instructor doesn’t have all of these, he will not be a good martial arts instructor.

Many instructors take on the “bow down to me” attitude where their ego is so large they can’t fit through the Dojo doorway.  Although respect is a must in the martial arts, many instructors get on power trips.  If you are thinking of joining a martial arts school, avoid those ego maniacs.  They are phonies.  If an instructor thinks he is the toughest person on earth and everyone should bow down when he walks by, that person has issues and there is no way he can help you in your life.  That person will only brainwash you and could get you seriously injured someday, if not worse.

To be a good teacher of the martial arts, the instructor first and foremost must have passion.  She must be passionate about teaching the martial arts.  If she doesn’t love the subject that she teaches, neither will her students.  Without passion there is no way an instructor can be successful at helping martial arts students reach their full potential.

Charisma and personality tie in together.  It’s the instructor’s personality that has the most impact on whether or not he has charisma.  Charisma means that he has that quality that draws people to him.  He’s very likable and vibrant.  Just by talking with him, he is motivating and enthusiastic.  That is charisma. His personality (or character) must be positive and understanding, kind, and empathetic.  He must truly care about those he is teaching and must provide the motivation to assist students on their journey.  He needs to be humble, real, down to earth, calm and a good sense of humor.  He must also be a good communicator, which stems from communication skills and social skills.  He needs to be positive, think positive, and live positively. A good martial arts instructor is open minded and creative.

Patience really ties into personality as well, since it is a personality trait.  If the instructor doesn’t have patience, she shouldn’t teach.  It’s not the profession for her.  In the martial arts, if your instructor doesn’t have patience, get out of there.  Part of learning the martial arts is to learn how to have patience, self-control and self-discipline. Children learn best by the social learning theory (modeling behavior) and they will automatically look up to their martial arts instructor.  If the instructor lacks patience and clearly shows disgust or anything close to that, it is sending the wrong message to the children.  Another part of martial arts training is to improve self-confidence and self-esteem.  If the instructor makes people feel like they are inadequate or are failures, the students’ self-esteem and self-confidence will become even worse.

Education is vital. In martial arts an instructor must be fully educated in the particular style of martial arts he is teaching.  That’s just a start.  That education he received needed to come from a fully qualified instructor – not the internet, a DVD, or belt by mail program.  Although the internet and DVD’s will help educate an instructor, going through the long process of hard training as a student provides the appropriate experience one needs to be an instructor.  It’s important to research and know your instructors’ background.  If your instructor can’t provide valid evidence of his background get out of there. An instructor must also be educated in the different types of learning.  Not all people learn the same.  Some are visual learners, some are audible learners and some are tactile learners.  In other words, some need to see it to learn, some need to hear it to learn, others need to feel it to learn.  It’s vital for an instructor to teach according to all three learning styles so that each student can learn appropriately.  Being educated in child development is also a plus.

Martial arts instructors play the role of educator, leader, role model, counselor, therapist, disciplinarian, coach, friend, mentor, and more.  It’s a very important role to have and if the instructor doesn’t have passion, charisma, personality, patience and education he will not be able to fulfill all the roles a martial arts instructor needs to fulfill.

About the author:

Michael Miller is an expert in self-defense, personal protection, personal development, and fitness.  He has been involved with martial arts for over twenty years and currently holds a 4th degree black belt in American Kenpo (one of the leading systems of self-defense), and also studies and teaches boxing, kickboxing, Joe Lewis Fighting Systems and Gracie Barra Jiu-Jitsu (no Gi).  He has been featured several times in Inside Kung-fu and Black Belt magazines as an authority in his field.  He runs the only full-time martial arts studio in the history of Bradford, Pa (Miller’s Kenpo Karate Dojo), which is also the only full-time studio in McKean County. He can be reached through his web site at www.millersdojo.com, through e-mail at michael.miller@millersdojo.com or by phone at 814-368-3725.

The History of Miller’s Dojo

Since the New Year is right around the corner I figured this would be the perfect time to reflect on how far our school has grown since I began teaching in late 1997, early 1998. Many may not know what I went through to get where I am.  My motivation for this article is to give you the exact history of Miller’s Kenpo Karate Dojo and to prove that hard work, dedication, discipline, patience, motivation and faith will get you to your goals.

I began teaching when I was a freshman in college at the University of Pittsburgh at Bradford.  I put up a hand drawn flier that I photo copied explaining that I was teaching Kenpo Karate. I had six original students come to me and begin taking lessons.  Of those six, two have remained with me for the entire journey thus far and continue to train with me to this day: David Monroe (2nd degree brown belt) and Steven Bennett (green belt). These two students are the exact students I love to train because of their dedication and loyalty and they never once chased a belt (belt chasers don’t last long in my school).

I began teaching the six students in two different areas on campus: the gymnasium and the soccer field.  We trained in street clothes and in all weather conditions.  I did that for 3-4 semesters teaching only once or twice per week (can’t recall which).  Throughout those two semesters I accumulated a handful more students.  At that point I decided to try to grow a bit and began teaching out of my mother’s garage.  I had eight students at the time.  When I began teaching out of my mother’s garage (again in all weather conditions) I decided that I needed a name to be more professional.  I came up with Miller’s Kenpo Karate Dojo.

Dojo is a Japanese term that means training hall.  I chose a Japanese term to show respect for the Japanese aspect of the system of martial arts I teach (American Kenpo).  American Kenpo is an American system of reality based self-defense based on logic and reason and has a mix of most dominantly Japanese (karate) and Chinese (kung-fu) movements, but also includes some Judo, Jiu-Jitsu, and Boxing.  What make American Kenpo stand out are the concepts and principles that apply logic to the equation which has fine tuned the outdated material to make things workable for modern environments; like comparing John L. Sullivan to Muhammad Ali, or black and white televisions with a twist channel changer to the high def color flat screens with remotes that have fifty buttons on them.  The founder of the system, Ed Parker, noted that traditional martial arts styles to American Kenpo were like comparing checkers to chess.

Mr. Parker really respected the Chinese and you can find a lot of areas of our system where it’s seen.  Early on (1950s), however, Mr. Parker was heavy into Japanese movements, so to show respect for the beginning stages of our art I decided to go with the term Dojo, although when I speak of our school I call it a studio for the same reason Mr. Parker did – that’s where creative miracles happen.

I taught in my mother’s garage for a year or two and then a horrible flood hit Bradford, Pa and ruined my wrestling mats I had in there along with a lot of other things as well.  With that said, I couldn’t teach in my mother’s garage anymore.  I was at a stand still for about three months not exactly knowing if I’d be continuing to teach.  I still had 5-6 students at the time and told them that I would be in contact with them.

I really didn’t want to give up teaching so I went down to a local hair salon (Lisa’s Hairport) because they had a fenced in patio they weren’t using.  I asked if I could use that to teach martial arts.  The owner was okay with it and I can’t remember what I paid her.  I believe it was $50 per month.  For two years I taught in the patio in all weather conditions and eventually got up to twelve students.

In the midst of teaching I heard about a big empty room above Gravitz and Associates place so I went to speak with the owner asking if during the winter months I could teach up there.  He was fine with it.  So for the next winter I taught up there and in the summer we went back to the patio.  I decided that it was foolish moving back and forth and asked Gravitz if he’d allow me to teach there all year round.  We agreed on $100 per month and I taught three times per week.  That was the end of my patio experiences. Please note that up until this point I had taught only adults (including teenagers).  I did not teach children.  I decided I would attempt to teach young kids and I ended up having only four sign up; after one month I cancelled the program.  I didn’t like it.  I preferred to teach adults the hard core devastating Kenpo that you can’t teach children (bone breaks, hyperextensions, eye gouges, groin crushing, skin tearing, and more.  Total body domination).

I continued to teach at Gravitz for three years eventually getting close to 30 students. We continued to train in street close and when we sparred we did it without protective gear.  We did a lot of hard core training. We didn’t start wearing uniforms until the third year of teaching at Gravitz.  Keep in mind that up until this point I was not teaching at a commercial studio.  It was just renting space and training people.  It was a lifelong goal of mine to open a commercial school, but I didn’t think it would be possible in my town.  I also believed, however, that God has a plan for me and if it is His plan to make me a commercial school owner then it was going to happen.

One night as I went in to teach Mr. Gravitz stopped me to tell me he was moving out of town and was closing his business down.  In that same sentence he said, “You have ten days to get out of here.”  It came from left field.  I had no clue that was going to happen.  So once again I wasn’t sure if I’d be able to continue my love of teaching.  After all I had gone through I had to seriously consider whether or not I was going to keep pushing.

In shock, I decided to drive downtown and I saw this little place for $400 a month. I thought to myself, there is no way I can afford $400 a month.  I’ve been paying only $100 month for Gravitz. I decided to look at it, however.  It was extremely small, but it might have been my only option.  I told the guy I would think about it.  Later that day I was driving down East Main Street and got to a red light in front of the Mini Mall.  I looked over and saw signs on the windows that said “For Rent.”  I told myself that would be the perfect place for a school.  I immediately began doubting and saying, “There is no way I could run a commercial school.”  Something told me to go in and check it out anyway.  I went in to the flower shop to ask who owned it because I wanted to look at it.  Serendipitously the owner was there.

The owner showed me around and I loved it.  It was 1300 square feet of open space.  I knew it would be the perfect location.  I asked him what he was charging monthly.  He said $750 a month.  I told him I couldn’t afford that because I was paying only $100 per month and I had only twelve students at the time.  There was no way I could take that big of a hit.  I thanked him and left.  As I drove away in my Mustang (that I no longer have) I just began thinking.  I really wanted that place.  I immediately told myself that I would get more students because it was going to be a commercial school and the front windows would attract attention.  I decided I would go down to a local bank and see if I could get a $4000.00 loan to be able to pay the first couple months plus security deposit up front and buy more equipment.  They said they would give me the loan.  I immediately called the owner of the building and told him I would take it.

He told me to meet him at a certain time that night and pay him the first month’s rent and security deposit and he’d give me the keys.  This was the middle of March in 2004.  I asked if he’d allow me to get the place ready for the next two weeks and not begin charging me until April, which was when I would officially open.  He was fine with that.

So after all the hard work I finally had the start of a commercial business, but it was no walk in the park.  I ran it part time for two years as I also worked full-time as a social services caseworker for McKean County Children and Youth Services.  In May of 2006 I resigned from CYS to run Miller’s Kenpo Karate Dojo full-time (the only full-time martial arts school in the history of Bradford, Pa to date and currently the only full-time martial arts school in McKean County).

We have been at our current location 443 East Main Street, Bradford, Pa since March 2004 and it has taken those six years to get our studio looking the way we wanted it.  We slowly got new equipment and new mats.  We changed the way we approach our programs numerous times.  In 2008 we expanded at our current location.  Our expansion included tearing an entire wall down, cutting a doorway and putting a window in (on another wall), and putting up a couple more walls.  Now, what was the training space, changing room and my office is now just the training space.  Our expansion included building an office, and two changing rooms (male and female).  My rent went up, of course, but I feel it’s still a good deal.

After all the moving and hard work we are finally at our final resting grounds and we will continue to grow as a school.  We are comfortable at our current location and all the work has paid off.  We aren’t going anywhere. I want to thank all of my students who work hard to become all they are capable of becoming. I want to thank all of the parents who are a part of our school.  As you know, your child will grow only through the triad to success: YOU the parents, ME the instructor (and my assistants) and your CHILD all have to be on the same page and we all play an important role to your child’s future.  If one of the points of the triangle (triad to success) is off it will be difficult to provide your child with the best education and to ensure your child will become all he is capable of becoming.

About the author:

Michael Miller is an expert in self-defense, personal protection, personal development, and fitness.  He has been involved with martial arts for over twenty years and currently holds a 4th degree black belt in American Kenpo (one of the leading systems of self-defense), and also studies and teaches boxing, kickboxing, Joe Lewis Fighting Systems and Gracie Barra Jiu-Jitsu (no Gi).  He has been featured several times in Inside Kung-fu and Black Belt magazines as an authority in his field.  He can be reached through his web site at www.millersdojo.com, through e-mail at michael.miller@millersdojo.com or by phone at 814-368-3725.

The Ultimate Martial Art Style

One thing that has always been a controversy among martial artists is which style is superior to all others.  Style generally means discipline (what type of martial art).  For instance, there are different styles of Karate (Japanese and Okinawan), Kung-fu (Chinese), Tae Kwon Do (Korean), Jiu-Jitsu (Brazilian and Japanese), Kenpo/Kempo (Chinese, Japanese, Hawaiian, American), and more.

Ultimately, every style can be considered a form of wrestling (grappling) or boxing (striking).  Some styles have a good mix of both, but are still considered predominantly striking or grappling.  Some of the striking styles focus on hand strikes (a closer range), some focus on kicking (farther range), and others have a good mix of both. Most styles are traditional while others are modern (more logical and reality based).

The Ulimate Fighting Championship-the first full contact style vs. style showdown-came out in 1993 to attempt to prove which style was superior.  It was a no rules event, which wasn’t exactly accurate.  Whenever there is a cage or a ring, there are rules.  I will say, however, the first few UFC’s were less rule oriented (than they have become) with no weight classes, no time limits, and strikes to the groin and back of the head were allowed.  They still had a few rules, however.  You couldn’t bite, eye gouge, pull hair, or fish hook.  No rules should mean you can do anything you want. Although it was interesting, it still didn’t prove which style was superior, in my view, due to the rules.  It did show, in the early years, which style was superior for their particular rule oriented event, however.

The early UFC brought in some of the heaviest testosterone you could find in world.  From street brawlers to wrestlers, boxers to kickboxers, tae kwon do specialists to Kenpo black belts, sumo wrestlers to shootfighers, and more. Many of the fights looked like bar room brawls, but you would find a handful of fighters who had skill and it showed.  Royce Gracie became the poster child for the early UFC’s proudly displaying his family’s art, Gracie Jiu-Jitsu.

In the early years Royce remained undefeated and then stopped fighting in the UFC.  Years later, once the UFC had dramatically changed many things, Royce got pummeled by Matt Hughes giving Royce his first loss in the UFC, but not his first loss ever.

Nowadays, when you look at the UFC, you see that all the fighters are well rounded by knowing how to strike and knowing how to grapple.  Early on it was style vs. style, now it’s primarily the fighter that makes the difference, not the style.  If a fighter goes into the UFC now with knowing only how to strike well, or knowing only how to grapple well, he will get dominated.  Just look at what happened to boxer James Toney.  He was only a boxer and he got wasted by Randy Couture – a pure mixed martial artist with a strong wrestling background.

What does all this mean?  There is no ultimate style. No one style is superior to all others.  It’s been proven in the rule oriented sport setting throughout the last ten years or more with mixed martial artists learning boxing, kickboxing, wrestling, and Jiu-Jitsu primarily, although some people come from other backgrounds holding black belts in Karate styles, Judo, Tae Kwon Do and more.  Even those black belts learn the other areas of the sport so that they can compete with today’s competition.

The same goes for self-defense on the street.  No one style is superior on the street.  Too many variables come into play.   On the street there are no rules.  A self-defense situation is about escape, not conquer.  The sport aspect of the arts has rules and is about being the better fighter.  You don’t have to be a good fighter to be good at self-defense (although it certainly will help).

You can break down the martial arts into three categories: academic, sport, and combative.  If we look at the physical aspect some are more dominant for sport, while others are more dominant for street (combative).  Although all martial arts will provide several benefits you just have to be aware of what you want to get out of your training.  If self-defense is your primary goal you need to seek out what would be dominant for that category.  If you want to be a tournament fighter you need to seek out what would be a good tournament style.  If you want to be a mixed martial artist you need to seek out a school with a solid MMA program that teaches boxing, kickboxing, wrestling, and some form of Jiu-Jitsu (Gracie Barra is my favorite). If the MMA program does not teach solid striking and grappling stay away from it (if you are looking to be a fighter).

Ultimately, it’s the instructor who makes the difference.  If an instructor says his/her style is the best, never join that school.  Seek out an instructor who is humble, great at what he/she does (both teaching and executing movements), logical, down to earth, never talks bad about other instructors or styles, and one who genuinely cares about your progress as a student.  If you ever need assistance in researching an instructor shoot me an e-mail at michael.miller@millersdojo.com and I would be more than happy to help you out.

I personally have sought out what I feel are the top systems of self-defense (notice I said systems) so that my students can learn what will best prepare them for reality.  My core is American Kenpo (my favorite martial art-a logical modern street system), Joe Lewis Fighting Systems, boxing, kickboxing, wrestling, and Gracie Barra Jiu-Jitsu.  My expertise is striking for street and sport.  American Kenpo, boxing and Joe Lewis Fighting Systems are what I excel at most.  I have had some of the top instructors in the world and still do-including the legend himself (Joe Lewis).

Remember, no one style is the ultimate.  Anyone who says that this is best or that is best is totally brainwashed.

About the Author:

Michael Miller is an expert in self-defense, personal protection, personal development, and fitness.  He currently holds a 4th degree black belt in American Kenpo (one of the leading systems of self-defense), and also studies and teaches boxing, kickboxing, Joe Lewis Fighting Systems and Gracie Barra Jiu-Jitsu.  He has been featured several times in Inside Kung-fu and Black Belt magazines as an authority in his field.  He can be reached through his web site at www.millersdojo.com, through e-mail at michael.miller@millersodjo.com or by phone at 814-368-3725.

Kindness – A Deviant Trait?

I’m sure you all know what kindness means.  If not, here is the definition from dictionary.com:

- the state or quality of being kind: kindness to animals.

- a kind act; favor: his many kindnesses to me.

- kind behavior: I will never forget your kindness.

- friendly feeling; liking.

Some synonyms to kindness include: thoughtfulness, consideration, understanding, benevolence, and forbearance.

Deviant is defined as being different, unique or strange.

This article is about kindness and how it seems to be a deviant trait in today’s society.  I do realize that there are some really great people still out there, but due to my personal experiences, it seems that kindness has become odd in today’s world. Being kind should not even be thought about.  It should just be done.  We should be kind to everybody.  It’s obvious that not everybody is going to be kind to us, but it’s important for us to not allow somebody else’s lack of character hinder our own.

As a martial arts instructor, kindness is extremely important in my book.  Although I was always brought up to be kind and thoughtful, the martial arts have assisted me on my journey through life to accomplish that task.  To me, it’s a part of me.  I also want that in my students.  Kindness means everything.  My students learn to be kind verbally, and to due random acts of kindness.

I will share two personal stories with you that shocked me.  The first one occurred several months ago.  I was walking into the local country fair.  As I approached the glass door I could see that a woman–probably in her mid-forties–was approaching the door from the inside, which immediately told me that she was on her way out.  As a normal thing that I do everyday, I pulled the door open for her and waited for her to come out before I went in.  She walked through the door with a smile on her face and said, “Thank-You!” I said, “You’re Welcome!”

After she walked through the door and I was about to head in, she stopped walking, turned around and said, “You know, there aren’t very many people around like you!”  I said, “Isn’t it sad?”  She agreed.  Just the simple kind act of holding a door for this woman really made her day.  I was shocked.  It was just a simple act of kindness.

My second story has to do with another normal act of kindness on my part.  At least three times per week I go to my favorite place to eat lunch in my hometown (Bradford, Pa), Togi’s restaurant.  Togi’s has great people, great service, and awesome food.  The best soups I have ever tasted.  While there about two months ago, this distraught couple came into the place.  They had to be upper thirties, lower forties in age.  They came from out of town and needed to make an emergency phone call.  Because Togi’s doesn’t have long distance, they couldn’t use the phone their.  This couple was clearly stressed and didn’t know what to do.

I told them that they could use my cell phone.  They could not believe that I was going to do that for them.  They thanked me profusely, made the call, and offered to buy me a drink.  I told them no thank you.  They asked if they could at least pay me a few dollars for doing this.  Once again, I declined.  I told them that I was just doing what everybody else in the world should do–help out someone in need.  They then ate lunch and as they were eating, my phone rang.  The person they had called needed to talk with them so I walked over handed them the phone and after a five minute conversation, the fellow gave me my phone back and apologized for that person calling my phone.  I told him it was not an issue and to have a great day.  They still insisted on doing something for me, even to the point to where they were trying to get the waitress to convince me to allow them to do something.

I look at this situation as being sad, because clearly, they arenot used to kind people.  They did tell me that they asked three different people to help them and they were all rude.  I offered–they didn’t ask.  I think it’s pathetic that everybody automatically feels obligated to give something in return when a kind deed is done.  I know it’s natural to feel that way, but true kindness comes from not wanting anything in return.

I challenge you to open your heart to being kind all the time, if you are not already.  Kindness can change the world, but it starts with you.

“If you haven’t any charity in your heart, you have the worst kind of heart trouble.”  ~Bob Hope

“Never look down on anybody unless you’re helping him up.”  ~Jesse Jackson

“It’s nice to be important, but it’s more important to be nice.”  ~Author Unknown

“Today, give a stranger one of your smiles.  It might be the only sunshine he sees all day. ” ~Quoted in P.S. I Love You, compiled by H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

“Treat everyone with politeness, even those who are rude to you – not because they are nice, but because you are.”  ~Author Unknown

If you want others to be happy, practice compassion.  If you want to be happy, practice compassion.  ~Dalai Lama

About the Author:

Michael Miller is an expert in self-defense, personal protection, personal development, and fitness.  He currently holds a 4th degree black belt in American Kenpo (one of the leading systems of self-defense), and also studies and teaches boxing, kickboxing, Joe Lewis Fighting Systems and Gracie Barra Jiu-Jitsu.  He has been featured several times in Inside Kung-fu and Black Belt magazines as an authority in his field.  He can be reached through his web site at www.millersdojo.com, through e-mail at michael.miller@millersodjo.com or phone at 814-368-3725.

Building Self-Confidence

Self-confidence is vital in our lives.  Our confidence in ourselves dictates how we walk, talk, and act.  It is an important element to our success in life.  Self-confidence deals with whether or not we believe in ourselves.  Do we believe we CAN accomplish the things we are out to accomplish, or do we have doubts for some reason or another?

“Recent studies (Peixe, 2009) show that self confidence is something you act on, not something you learn. There are a number of practical exercises that are said to help anyone achieve the level of belief that allows them to take action and pursue their objectives.”  — wikopedia site

Building self-confidence is about action, as stated in the above paragraph.  If you feel you need better confidence in yourself, this article will help you.  Here is a little write up from the site: www.confidencemanual.com

People who are self confident are those who acknowledge their capacity to do something and then proceed to do these things. They do not rely on the approval of other people in order to affirm their existence. It is enough that they know they have the capacity and the potential to do something, and the guts to do it no matter what others may say. People who are self confident take advantage of the opportunities that comes their way.

Lack of self confidence is not proportional to a person’s abilities. In fact, there are people who are extremely talented and able but they lack self confidence to show these abilities.

If you are wanting in self confidence, then you must continuously do things that will help you gain confidence.

Identify your strengths and weaknesses and capitalize on that. Make full use of your strength and gather positive points. This will help you gain self confidence. Do not expect everything to be perfect because you are bound to do something wrong along the way. Nobody is perfect and everyone is culpable of making mistakes.

Acknowledge your abilities and talent and take stock of them. Do not under estimate yourself. Try to recognize every little thing you have done which has become successful. Try to learn a new skill, and try to learn new things as this will make you a better person.

Look for things that make you feel good about yourself. It can be photos of past achievements like when you won a race or won a debate; it can be a poem you wrote which was published in a book. Concentrate on things that you have achieved and take it from there. This will give you more confidence to do other things in life.

Developing self confidence is not easy especially if you do not think highly of yourself. If you want to be self confident, avoid things that will discourage you from gaining confidence. Do not dwell on past mistakes or failures because it will make you feel insignificant. Being a defeatist will not give your confidence a boost.

Better yet, concentrate on the positive things that you have done and accomplished and make them your inspiration. In time, you will have more faith in yourself, and hopefully, more confidence.

Here is a great article I found on pickthebrain.com.  It’s written by the editor.

10 Ways to Instantly Build Self-Confidence

1. Dress Sharp

Although clothes don’t make the man, they certainly affect the way he feels about himself. No one is more conscious of your physical appearance than you are. When you don’t look good, it changes the way you carry yourself and interact with other people. Use this to your advantage by taking care of your personal appearance. In most cases, significant improvements can be made by bathing and shaving frequently, wearing clean clothes, and being cognizant of the latest styles.

This doesn’t mean you need to spend a lot on clothes. One great rule to follow is “spend twice as much, buy half as much”. Rather than buying a bunch of cheap clothes, buy half as many select, high quality items. In long run this decreases spending because expensive clothes wear out less easily and stay in style longer than cheap clothes. Buying less also helps reduce the clutter in your closet.

2. Walk Faster

One of the easiest ways to tell how a person feels about herself is to examine her walk. Is it slow? tired? painful? Or is it energetic and purposeful? People with confidence walk quickly. They have places to go, people to see, and important work to do. Even if you aren’t in a hurry, you can increase your self confidence by putting some pep in your step. Walking 25% faster will make to you look and feel more important.

3. Good Posture

Similarly, the way a person carries herself tells a story. People with slumped shoulders and lethargic movements display a lack of self confidence. They aren’t enthusiastic about what they’re doing and they don’t consider themselves important. By practicing good posture, you’ll automatically feel more confident. Stand up straight, keep your head up, and make eye contact. You’ll make a positive impression on others and instantly feel more alert and empowered.

4. Personal Commercial

One of the best ways to build confidence is listening to a motivational speech. Unfortunately, opportunities to listen to a great speaker are few and far between. You can fill this need by creating a personal commercial. Write a 30-60 second speech that highlights your strengths and goals. Then recite it in front of the mirror aloud (or inside your head if you prefer) whenever you need a confidence boost.

5. Gratitude

When you focus too much on what you want, the mind creates reasons why you can’t have it. This leads you to dwell on your weaknesses. The best way to avoid this is consciously focusing on gratitude. Set aside time each day to mentally list everything you have to be grateful for. Recall your past successes, unique skills, loving relationships, and positive momentum. You’ll be amazed how much you have going for you and motivated to take that next step towards success.

6. Compliment other people

When we think negatively about ourselves, we often project that feeling on to others in the form of insults and gossip. To break this cycle of negativity, get in the habit of praising other people. Refuse to engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to compliment those around you. In the process, you’ll become well liked and build self confidence. By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself.

7. Sit in the front row

In schools, offices, and public assemblies around the world, people constantly strive to sit at the back of the room. Most people prefer the back because they’re afraid of being noticed. This reflects a lack of self confidence. By deciding to sit in the front row, you can get over this irrational fear and build your self confidence. You’ll also be more visible to the important people talking from the front of the room.

8. Speak up

During group discussions many people never speak up because they’re afraid that people will judge them for saying something stupid. This fear isn’t really justified. Generally, people are much more accepting than we imagine. In fact most people are dealing with the exact same fears. By making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion, you’ll become a better public speaker, more confident in your own thoughts, and recognized as a leader by your peers.

9. Work out

Along the same lines as personal appearance, physical fitness has a huge effect on self confidence. If you’re out of shape, you’ll feel insecure, unattractive, and less energetic. By working out, you improve your physcial appearance, energize yourself, and accomplish something positive. Having the discipline to work out not only makes you feel better, it creates positive momentum that you can build on the rest of the day.

10. Focus on contribution

Too often we get caught up in our own desires. We focus too much on ourselves and not enough on the needs of other people. If you stop thinking about yourself and concentrate on the contribution you’re making to the rest of the world, you won’t worry as much about you own flaws. This will increase self confidence and allow you to contribute with maximum efficiency. The more you contribute to the world the more you’ll be rewarded with personal success and recognition.

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Follow these steps and you will build your self-confidence instantly and can enjoy a healthier, happier life.  Keep in mind that children need to be confident so be sure to educate your children in how to do so.  One of the things to build confidence mentioned in the article was working out.  One of the best forms of working out is martial arts.  Martial Arts build confidence quicker and better than anything else.  It’s been proven time and time again.

Remember, actions produce confidence!

Michael Miller

www.millersdojo.com

michael.miller@millersdojo.com

2009 Bullying Statistics

Bullying is a major problem throughout the U.S.  This is an addendum to my first article about bullying.   You will also find many future articles about this topic, since bullying has lead to several young suicides and, for others, severe depression.

Some people believe that it won’t happen to them or their child.  Honestly, bullying is extremely common and I guarantee it will happen to your child.  I am certain it has happened to you several times.  I know it has happened to me more than I can count; even as an adult.  The good news is I knew how to handle it.

First off, there are things you can do to prevent yourself from being bullied in the first place.  Confidence is the main ingredient to making bullies turn the other way.  Your body language, attitude, and how you conduct yourself all play a role.  The problem is many people don’t have that confidence and conduct themselves in such a way that they become victimized.  So how do you get that kind of confidence?  It’s simple: learn how to protect yourself.  It’s a great feeling walking around knowing you don’t have to worry about being attacked.  Bullies can read this.

Although you might not be a target for a bully it still doesn’t guarantee that you won’t become bullied.  So your second step is knowing how to deal with bullies.  You need to know how to diffuse the verbal harassment and how to physically handle a bully if he attacks you.  If you learn the three T’s of dealing with verbal harassment, you will be able to implement them and will put a stop to the bully.  You must also understand the rules of engagement when dealing with bullies.

At Miller’s Kenpo Karate we teach children and adults all of these things.  They learn the three T’s to verbal harassment and also learn the rules of engagement (five steps to take).  We instill real confidence by teaching effective training methods and movements, along with the proper mindset.

To prove how bad bullying is, I have included the statistics of 2009 for bullying, which were mentioned in an article written by researcher John W. Sheridan.

Here are some School Bullying Statistics from 2009 Surveys:

*Over 75% of our students are subjected to harassment by a bully or Cyber-Bully and experience physical, psychological and/or emotional abuse.

*Over 20% of our kids admit to being a bully or participating in bully-like activities.

*Over one half of bullying & Cyber-Bullying events go unreported to authorities or parents.

*In 2009 surveys showed over 100,000 children carried guns to school as a result of being bullied.

*28% of students who carry weapons in school have witnessed violence in their homes.

*On a daily average 160,000 children miss school because they fear they will be bullied if they attend classes.

*On a monthly average 282,000 students are physically attacked by a bully each month.

*Every seven minutes a child is bullied on a school playground with over 85% of those instances occurring without any intervention.

*46% of males and 26% of females admit to having been involved in physical fights as a result of being bullied.

*Over 85% of our teenagers say that revenge as an aftermath of being bullied is the leading cause for school shootings and homicide.

*The top 5 states in regards to reported incidents of bullying and Cyber-Bullying are California, New York, Illinois, Pennsylvania, and Washington.

*A child commits suicide as a direct result of being bullied once every half hour with 19,000 bullied children attempting to commit suicide over the course of one year.

As you can see from the school bullying statistics listed above it is indeed a serious problem that must be addressed whenever discovered.

Unfortunately, as indicated above, most instances of school bully activity go unreported by the student victims.

This makes it very difficult for teachers or parents to intervene on behalf of the victim and provide the proper counseling needed for the victim as well as the bully.

A relatively new type of bully, the Cyber-Bully, is relevant in schools as well as home and is a growing concern for parents when trying to protect their kids from this form of abuse.

Cyber-Bullying is the harassment of kids through the use of the internet and filters into the schools when kids return to classes.

It is so serious that over one third of our kids who frequent the internet are victims of the Cyber-Bully.

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I will have a separate article in the future about Cyber-bullying.  Notice that Pennsylvania is one of the top 5 states for bullying.  You CAN do something about it.  Although most school systems have adapted the zero tolerance rule, meaning that any students who get into a physical confrontation both parties will be suspended.  That’s good in one way that it prevents some physical bullying from happening, but not so good in other ways.  It still doesn’t prevent all of it, and it doesn’t stop any of the verbal harassment.

Michael Miller (Reality based self-defense expert)

www.millersdojo.com

814-368-3725

michael.miller@millersdojo.com

Honoring Your Instructors

When you become a martial artist you feel like you are part of an elite group–and you are.  As a martial artist you are in for an amazing road of self-discovery and self-improvement.  On that road you will find setbacks; roadblocks that everyone deals with on their journey in life.  As a martial artist you will take these setbacks and welcome them as a challenge, a challenge that you know you will defeat.

The most important people who guide you on your martial arts journey are your instructors.  They teach you, guide you, mentor you, challenge you, inspire you, respect you, honor you, and enjoy watching you blossom into an extraordinary individual.  Some people take that for granted.  Some instructors don’t fulfill their role, and some students don’t appreciate who their instructors are and what they have done for them as individuals.

I am writing this article to honor those who have taught me and have inspired me to become the person I have become in the martial art world.  I have many parents (of children I teach) tell me often how impressed they are with my teaching abilities and how I really care about my students growth.  Although I am proud that they recognize this, I am a product of my own upbringing.  I care because my instructors have cared.  I am well educated because my instructors educated me.

First off, I have had many teachers who have done a lot for me.  Those I mention in this article are those who have done the most to mold me into who I am as a martial artist and a teacher.  I will mention those who I consider my primary and secondary instructors and those who have inspired me, but aren’t my instructors.

First let me be clear in stating that my ultimate teacher is my lord and savior Jesus Christ.  I will never be ashamed of my faith.  God has created an amazing life for me and He is who paved the path for me in meeting and training with my instructors.

The person who has impacted me the most on my martial arts journey as my direct primary instructor is Sean P. Kelley.   Although I didn’t begin my journey with him, my Kenpo and my teaching abilities grew tremendously ever since he became my instructor.   He has taught me many things and on many levels.  Without Mr. Kelley I would still be mediocre at best.

Other people who have impacted me greatly who I consider to be my secondary instructors include: Grandmaster Michael Robert Pick, and Master Rainer Schulte.  Mr. Pick is hard core.  He’s the real deal.  I have been fortunate enough to have trained with him several times (and many more to come).  He has inspired me to think on a different perspective and has really helped me with the combative side of Kenpo.  Mr. Schulte is a great guy.  I have a close relationship with him and have learned a lot from him as well.  I have taken several classes under him and they are educational and get you in pretty good shape.

Other people in Kenpo who aren’t my instructors, but have inspired me include:

Grandmaster Dave Hebler

Bob White

Richard Post

Ed Parker Jr.

Although uncle Dave has taught me on a few levels, I haven’t trained with him in awhile.  I became one of his certified instructors for the Gift of Power Foundation (educating, empowering and teaching women self-defense) but that Foundation has now become a martial arts organization, rather than the protecting women organization that it used to be.

Mr. White has such an amazing charisma and teaching ability.  I have never been on the floor with him, but he has helped me with the ways I view teaching by inspiring me through e-mail conversations and by introducing me to the great John Wooden’s concepts.

Mr. Post is another hard core reality guy.  I don’t believe in fantasy and Mr. Post has also educated me on some reality when it comes to self-protection.

Ed Parker Jr. is an awesome person.  I am honored to have gotten to know him.  He has inspired me in many ways.  I enjoy just having a conversation with him.

Aside from American Kenpo, I also have other teachers who have inspired me greatly.  This includes the legendary Joe Lewis and the great Bill “Superfoot” Wallace.

I have been training with Mr. Lewis directly since 2007, but have been studying his system since 2004.  He has inspired me tremendously.  His teaching methods are amazing.  I love his system (Joe Lewis Fighting Systems).  It’s a great system to cross train in as a Kenpo guy.  Nobody has broken fighting down as scientifically as Mr. Lewis.   He has done a lot for my sparring.

Mr. Wallace, although not really considered my instructor in any way, I have trained with him several times since 2007 including one private lesson.  He has a great sense of humor and has also taught me a lot in terms of sparring.

So, to all of you, I want to say thank you so much for making me who I am in the martial arts world.  I care about my growth and that of my students and without you guys I would be nothing.

TCB!

Although I don't have a picture of all my instructors with me, here is one I am in with Mr. Kelley, Mr. Pick, Mr. Lewis and Mr. Wallace!

The System of American Kenpo

Note:  This is an explanation of the reality of American Kenpo–the system we teach and learn at Miller’s Kenpo Karate.  This is the description of what is taught to our adults–hence the reason it is in the adult program members section and storm team section.  The child programs are approached differently to stay age specific in nature.

American Kenpo is a modern combative system based on logic and reason. Unlike traditional martial arts, American Kenpo progresses and evolves to effectively and efficiently handle the realities of modern combat and street survival. Unconstrained by archaic modalities and inflexible mindsets, American Kenpo examines every move, concept and principle in the light of logic and experience, allowing for a constant growth and refinement of the system. Based on the laws of the universe, which are best described through physics and geometry, American Kenpo examines total body domination by penetrating through the physical mass and controlling the body hinges.  Through the analytical systematic breakdown of motion and anatomical and physiological study, every movement of each practitioner is articulate and natural, accurate and powerful, swift and fluent.

American Kenpo is tailored to every individual practitioner for maximum efficiency and effectiveness in application. Through fidelity to a core set of principles constituting the essence of the system, the expression of motion can be adapted to a style that best suits the physical structure and mentality of the individual. American Kenpo is a thinking persons’ art based on science, teaching each practitioner to be independent thinkers and become self-correcting.  Unlike traditional martial arts, in American Kenpo you not only learn how to do things properly, but also why things are done a certain way as a reference to build from.  Everything in this system has a rational purpose.

Kenpo combines circular and linear movements into one continuous and overwhelming flow of motion. No motion is wasted; every movement has meaning. The reaction and positioning of the enemy are simultaneously determined by and provide the catalyst for every action of the Kenpoist, acting instinctually and extemporaneously through an attack the attack modality with proper intent. This ability to act from the subconscious is achieved only after the rigors of proper reality based training, evolving personally through the embryonic and mechanical stages of learning, arriving finally at the ability to effectively defend oneself spontaneously.  Being a reality based system, American Kenpo studies all ranges of combat including the farthest distance on your feet (vertical plane) to the different ground positions (horizontal plane) one may find himself in during an altercation.  Although categorized as a striking art, one also learns the realities of grappling for street, not sport.

A matrix is created from the basics, sets, forms, and idealized self-defense techniques that constitute the primary training curriculum of the system. By conditioning the basic, fundamental aspects of American Kenpo, the groundwork is laid for effectively combining them to dominate any attacker. Techniques provide the case studies of self defense and motion that allow the practitioner to combine the basics in a meaningful way, highlighting the concepts, principles and theories that define American Kenpo. The understanding and use of these tools, both physical and intellectual, are further sharpened and refined by the forms and sets of the system.  The forms act as a roadmap of movement, which in turn produce a blueprint of motion from all planes. They also serve as the skeletal structure of the self-defense techniques.  The sets isolate certain movement to further refine proper execution of the alphabet of motion. The synthesis of all of these aspects of American Kenpo lead the practitioner to ever-higher levels of understanding and proficiency in execution of the art, until it becomes internalized in a perfect harmony of mind, body and spirit.

Realistic movement, proper training methods, and the cultivation of the warrior spirit are the three essential elements that American Kenpo combines, making it a truly realistic, effective and devastating combative system. Primarily known as an empty hand art, American Kenpo evolves itself in its advanced stages into stick, knife and firearms both defensive and offensive.

Through the development and expansion of the foundation offered by Kenpo, the practitioners of this art are transformed into warriors and scholars living in perfect harmony with themselves and the world, yet capable of unleashing a violent torrent when this harmony is disturbed. American Kenpo is a journey on which knowledge and skill never cease expanding, leading to unlimited potential and growth.

Written by: Jason Wood and Michael Miller

Belt Ranking in American Kenpo

BELT RANKING IN AMERICAN KENPO KARATE – through our lineage in the Chinese Karate Federation

The color of one’s belt is to symbolize the level of the practitioner within the confinements of the base material being taught and tested upon, beginning with white belt and leading to black belt through constant refinement of skill and intellect.  In American Kenpo one must learn certain basics, sets, forms, freestyle, and self-defense techniques in each belt to test upon as a blueprint of motion providing the tools to reach his/her full potential.  Aside from the physical movements, students learn the concepts and principles of Kenpo based on science—primarily physics and geometry—as well as certain rules, code words, themes, definitions and possible theories so that they can also speak the language of Kenpo, become free thinkers and self-correcting. What is learned outside of the tested curriculum through analyzing, interpreting, tailoring and improving is what is most important, however.  The written material guides us to the ultimate findings in our journey throughout the three stages of American Kenpo: academic, sport, and combative.

The ranking system in Martial Arts is not an ancient custom, however, because it was first used by Kano Jigoro (founder of Judo) in the 19th century. Senior Grandmaster Edmund K. Parker, the founder of American Kenpo Karate, dug deeply into the “Color in Chinese culture.”  To understand the ranking system we need to know the following:

The ancient Chinese culture was based on the color BLACK = YANG and WHITE = YIN to represent the cycle of life.  The ancient Chinese regarded BLACK as the KING OF COLORS and believed “BLACK as the color of HEAVEN and BEGINNING” while they believed in “WHITE as the END.”

In the traditional Chinese culture and Chinese physics, China’s emperors selected standard colors by using the “Theory of the Five Elements.”

Movement: Earth                   Metal                  Water              Wood              Fire

Color: yellow                 purple                  blue                  green              red

Direction: center                     west                    north               east               south

Planet: Saturn                 Venus                 Mercury           Jupiter            Mars

Energy: stabilizing          contracting        conserving      generative    expansive

By knowing the basics of Chinese culture the ranking system is easy to understand:

White                    -   The ‘End’ as new ‘Beginning’

Yellow                   -   to stabilize what you’ve learned

Orange                  -   add a little red to yellow and learn more

Purple                   -   to contract what you’ve learned

Blue                       -   to conserve what you’ve learned

Green                    -  to generate what you’ve learned

Brown                   -  combine yellow to green and keep on going

Black                     -   Heaven and the ‘new beginning’

Red Stripes           -  Fire = Expansion

In all aspects of life, there is always an opposite and a reverse, and we view everything in American Kenpo as such.  “For every move, concept, principle and definition there is an opposite and a reverse.”

Through studying the meaning of colors in Chinese culture in detail, Mr. Kelley has decided to reverse “HEAVEN and FIRE” (black belt with red stripes) into “FIRE and HEAVEN” (red belt with black stripes).  This signifies humility, honors the wisdom and commits to the willingness of being a lifetime student of Kenpo, with the final goal “THE REAL HEAVEN.”

It’s an honor to get and to wear the “red belt” which can be only presented by the President of the Chinese Karate Federation for ranks 5th and above.

FAITH          -          SPIRIT          -          WISDOM

CHINESE                KARATE              FEDERATION

Written by:  Brigitte Schulte (Kenpo legend Rainer Schulte’s wife) and

Michael Miller (CKF Public Relations Administrator)

CKF President Sean P. Kelley's belt showing the reverse of the black belt with red tips (now red belt with black tips) as explained in the article!

Planting Seeds

One of the many things I like to do on my journey of life is to plant seeds everywhere I go.  I have always been into helping others in any way I can to improve their lives, which is why I became a self-defense expert.  My role in life, however, is much more involved than just a self-defense/martial arts instructor.

One thing to understand, however, is that just because seeds are planted doesn’t mean they are going to grow.  My job isn’t to worry about that.  My job is to continuously plant seeds and enjoy the one’s that do grow.  There are several ways we can plant seeds on our journey.  The best way is through our actual actions of being kind, helping those in need, educating others through our experiences and expertise, and having an open mind.

I have found that being a good listener and genuinely caring about who you are talking to and what his/her needs are is a great way to change people’s lives.  Sometimes a seed is a kind word said that a person needed to hear to heal his/her heart.  Sometimes a seed is a gift you wanted to give to a particular person with no intentions of wanting anything in return.

One thing that makes me proud is that I often get e-mails and messages on facebook from people thanking me for what I have done for them.  Most of the time it’s from people I’ve never met.  Usually it has to do with an article I write or something I said that they found on the internet somewhere.  Just the other day I received a facebook message from someone I never met and it made me feel awesome.  I will share this with you:

“Mr. Miller,

We have never met or had any communications in the past, but I wanted to thank you.  See, I was at a time in my life when I had stopped training in the martial arts due to work, marriage and children.  And sadly laziness breeds more laziness.  So I had no motivation to train.

One evening I was surfing on youtube and stumbled across some of your videos.  I saw a person with a passion for martial arts like I once had.  A man who was not only great at his art but loved to do it.  And your enthusiasm looked as though it spreads to your students.

The reason I wanted to thank you is because you inspired me to get off my rear end and start training again.  Not only just training again but training in Kenpo.  I’m currently a yellow belt (about to test for my orange) and I love it.

Just for a little background.  I’m 31, I’ve been training since I was 14 (aside from the lazy spell I spoke of).  Aside from Kenpo, I am a 4th degree black belt in TKD, 3rd degree black in American Freestyle, with a fair amount of cross training in other arts.  Thank you sir, for inspiring a man that you have never met to get up and train once again.  If I hadn’t seen that video that evening, my martial arts journey may have ended. Thank you.”

I won’t put his name as he doesn’t know I am writing this.  As you can see, it is possible to spread seeds when you don’t even know that you are.   It’s nice that I am able to do that and I am proud that this fellow recognized my passion.

How often do you plant seeds?  I always encourage my students to follow my role and lead by example so that our community will continue to become a better place one person at a time.

About the author:

Michael Miller is an expert in reality based self-defense, personal protection, personal development, and fitness.  He has been featured several times in Inside Kung-fu and Black Belt magazines as an authority in his field.  He is one of two people on the entire East Coast actively certified through the Gift of Power Foundation—one of the top organizations for self-defense and personal safety—created by one of Miller’s instructors Dave Hebler (ex bodyguard to Elvis Presley).