The Four Agreements

There is always room for improvement.  No matter where you get in life, or how great you are, there is always room for you to become even better.  You should always give 100 percent effort 100 percent of the time and not settle for lest than your best.  With this come many roadblocks that will attempt to deter your success.  It’s important to have faith, to believe in yourself, and to persevere no matter how hard a particular struggle may become. 

 

Your mind is a powerful tool and is the most dangerous weapon you possess.  The power of positive thinking produces positive action.  You are what you think.  If you don’t like the way you feel, change the way you think.  Try to become a better and more positive person each day and reap the greatness of a rewarding life. 

 

I came across “The Four Agreements” which I found interesting and very true.  I don’t know where they came from or who created them, but it wasn’t me.  Try to incorporate these agreements in your life.

 The Four Agreements

 

Be Impeccable with your Word

 

Speak with integrity.  Say only what you mean.  Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others.  Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

 

Don’t Take Anything Personally

 

Nothing others do is because of you.  What others say and do is a projection of their own reality.  When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

 

Don’t Make Assumptions

 

Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want.  Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama.  With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.

 

Always Do Your Best

 

Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick.  Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.  

 

True Leadership

When it comes to life, you have those people who watch things happen, those who make things happen and those who say “what happened.”  Leadership is something I believe is vital in life. We are all role models whether we like it or not.  Question is, are we being good ones?  You will always have people who will look at your actions and behaviors and they will emulate that behavior.  A good example is parenthood.  When children are young they learn by watching others.  The people they copy the most are their parents, brothers, sisters, cousins, etc.  If a parent displays negative behavior, the child automatically thinks the behavior is acceptable. 

In martial arts, we strive to be good leaders.  One of the best leaders this world has ever seen was the great Coach John Wooden.  When I was introduced to the book “Wooden on Leadership” I truly loved Mr. Woodens philosophies.  I never knew him personally, but a lot of my teachings in martial arts emulate that of the great UCLA coach.  I have his Pyramid of Success hung in every room of my martial arts studio. 

I’m writing this because I came across a great story sent to Bob White (a Kenpo expert), by Andy Hill, who was an old student under Coach Wooden.  This is a great article.  I hope you enjoy it. 

POISE

At the pinnacle of Coach Wooden’s Pyramid of Success is a quality everyone needs to thrive in tough times…COMPETITIVE GREATNESS. He defines this as “being at your best when your best is needed.” While it is true that all the blocks of the Pyramid play a role in reaching the zenith, there is one block that is an absolute necessity for those wishing to reach the top…and that is POISE…which lies right under COMPETITIVE GREATNESS.

How does Coach define POISE? He says, “Just be yourself. Be at ease in any situation. Never fight yourself.” This quality of clear headedness about who you are and what you value is also clearly a part of Coach’s Seven Point Creed. “Be True to Yourself” is the very first one of the seven points. But what does this imply for you, and how do you attain this sort of clarity?

The starting point for POISE is to have a solid sense of your own values. Is it more important to you that you make money…or have close relationships? Is it more important to you to have a bigger home…or be honest? Is it more important to you to get promoted…or to do the right thing when no one else is there to witness your behavior? Are you “the boss” who has to exercise power…or “the teacher” who needs to help those under your supervision improve and reach THEIR goals? A clear vision of who you are…and what you hope to become…are the essential ingredients you must possess to truly have “poise” and if you hope to some day have “competitive greatness.”

Like many of Coach Wooden’s ideas, they are probably most easily understood if you can see how he carried them out in real life. Beyond knowing that it held a spot high up in his Pyramid…how did Coach demonstrate POISE to us? Here’s a John Wooden story that hopefully will take this somewhat murky concept and make it unambiguous. Let’s take a little trip down memory lane and see if this doesn’t give you an insight into POISE.

My very first trip to the Final Four was in 1970, when we journeyed to Maryland’s Cole Field House. We beat an outstanding New Mexico team that boasted three future NBA first round draft choices…and looked forward to playing the winner of the other semi-final that featured two future Hall of Fame centers, Bob Lanier from St. Bonaventure and Artis Gilmore from Jacksonville. Artis’ team won a tough semi-final game, and we truly were concerned with how we were going to contend in the Finals with the 7’2″ giant who controlled the paint against the Bonnies. Behind an unbelievable performance from Sidney Wicks, we were able to prevail and once again the Bruins were the champs.

When you win a championship, you can only imagine the excitement and enthusiasm it ignites in your fans. As we finished up showering and started to make our way out to the bus for the trip home, you could hear huge cheers go up as Bruin players and coaches made their way out of the locker room to sign autographs and pose for pictures with ecstatic alumni and students. Pretty heady stuff when you are just 19. But John Wooden had been in this situation before, and Coach knew that those same fans who love you today could boo you tomorrow. He didn’t mind the revelry, but he sure didn’t get carried away by the excitement. So as I finished packing my travel bag to head out to the bus, Coach gave me a real life lesson in POISE that I never forgot. As I was throwing my shoes in my bag for the last time that season…anxious to head outside and feel the love from those fans…I took one last glance around the locker room and was surprised to find Coach Wooden over in the corner picking up a couple of orange peels that had been left on the floor. Knowing that the big-shots out in the hall were really hoping for a glimpse of Coach, I sort of jokingly went over to him and reminded him that surely someone was going to come in and clean up after we left. He didn’t miss a beat in responding, “Those fans can wait another few minutes. I always love it when janitors write or comment on how UCLA left their locker room spotless.” I was tongue tied…which is not my normal state. Here was the coach of the newly crowned champs, pausing before he accepted the cheers and congratulations of supposedly “important” folks, showing concern for a janitor whom he would probably never meet face to face. Why? Because Coach knew who he was, knew what he valued, and had the POISE to “stay true to himself” regardless of the situation.

POISE…there is no stepping stone to COMPETITIVE GREATNESS that is more important. Know yourself. Know your values. It makes it easy to know what to do…regardless of circumstance.

Stomp the Bullying

Bullying is one of the biggest epidemics we face in our society.  Although it’s a major problem for children and young adults, adults also deal with bullying behavior.  The act of bullying encompasses aggressive behavior that is intentional and that involves an imbalance of power or strength. Typically, it’s repeated over time.

 

There are many forms of bullying including: hitting, punching, kicking, pushing, etc. (physical bullying); teasing or name calling (verbal bullying); intimidation using gestures or social exclusion (non-verbal bullying or emotional bullying); and sending insulting messages through e-mail, text messages, facebook, etc. (cyber bullying).

 

Are you aware of this on-going problem?  It’s in the news regularly.  We hear of teenagers committing suicide because of bullying.  Children are haunted by bullying daily and many times it goes unnoticed by parents, teachers, and other authorities.  Other times, it may be noticed, but nothing is done about it.  Only 20% of children who are bullied actually tell their parents.  Parents, I’m sure you have found out that nobody does anything to help your bullied child.  They say they do, but they don’t.  I’ve talked with some parents whose children are being bullied.  They’ve gone through all the proper channels of the school system and nothing is being done.

 

Pennsylvania is among the top five states where bullying is at its highest peak.  The other four include California, New York, Illinois, and Washington.  Statistics show that 160,000 children fear attending school each day because of intimidation and humiliation suffered at the hands of bullies. Bullying causes psychological harm, self-esteem damage and other lasting effects for victims.

 

I, too, have been a victim of bullying.  As a child in Jr. High and High school I was a victim of bullies on some occasions.  I was small and quiet so I had a few bullies pick on me, call me names and sometimes even push me around.  They thought it was funny.  I took a lot of it and I never told anybody at the time.

 

What got me through those bullying situations was my martial arts training.  Most people have a false perception of martial arts.  They think it’s about fighting and teaching kids to fight.  Wrong.  It’s about not fighting.  Yes, we teach children to stand up for themselves and to stand up for what’s right, but we teach them to be kind, to have self-control, self-discipline, respect, focus, and to always do the right thing.  We teach them how to talk themselves out of bullying situations.  Getting physical is ALWAYS last resort and we teach children how to go about that.

 

Because of my martial arts training, I had self-confidence and a healthy self-esteem, so I didn’t let the bullying damage that.  It made me see the situations in a logical frame of mind and not a fantasy frame of mind that produces a distorted perception.  With that said, I was able to ignore it at times and walk away from it at times without it bothering me.  Other times I was able to use verbal Judo to diffuse the situations.  Many bullies went on to someone else because they saw that it wasn’t bothering me.  Bullies look for people who are vulnerable, who are weak.  When they see they are getting to the victim the bullies feel power.  They don’t want to bully people who aren’t bothered by it and who are going to stand up for themselves. There were times where I had to physically protect myself against bullies, but it was always last resort.  When I stood up for myself the bullies left me alone.

 

Since bullying is becoming worse and worse I am stepping up in my community by creating a Stomp the Bullying campaign under the direction of my instructor Sean Kelley (www.seankelley.com) and the Guardian Angels (www.guardianangels.org) where my school Miller’s Kenpo Karate Dojo (www.millersdojo.com) has now become a “martial arts safe place” and official Guardian Angels training facility.  I am creating a volunteer community service program called The Guardian Angels Anti-Bullying Leadership program where I will teach members of our community the importance of servicing our community, how to be good citizens, and how to be good role models.  I will also educate students of this program about all aspects of bullying, and how to handle bullying situations whether they themselves are being bullied or they witness somebody else being bullied.

 

They will learn what bullying really entails, the warning signs of both a bully and someone being bullied, the risk factors, how not to be a target of a bully, common myths about bullying, statistics, and what they can do as citizens to “Stomp the Bullying.”  Also a part of the program will be some self-defense training including awareness, having a logical mindset, verbal Judo, and some physical restraint holds and personal protection methods.

 

This program is a four month program that children ages 7 and up can participate in along with their parents, as well as any adult community member, whether a parent or not.  This program is for children, young adults (teenagers) and adults.  Even if you are an adult who is already well educated in servicing our community we still want you.  The child requirements are to meet during the scheduled times (once per week) at my school Miller’s Kenpo Karate Dojo, do in house community service projects, march in parades, and be good youth role models for members of the society.  You must maintain good grades in school as well.  For adults, your requirements are to meet during the same scheduled times, do local community service projects when we get the opportunity, and be positive role models in our community.  Once the four months is up we will have a graduation ceremony where the children will become Jr. Angels and the adults will become Guardian Angels. Once you become a Guardian Angel you will become leaders for the program, and I will start it all over with new people.

 

My instructor Sean Kelley from Florida who is a 25 year veteran of the Guardian Angels, an International martial arts and self-defense instructor, bodyguard, and is heavy into the security business, will be at my school along with self-defense and tactical firearms instructor Buddy Morrison from Tennessee to assist me with a FREE bullying seminar open to anybody in the community.  This will be held on Friday, May 20, 2011 at Miller’s Kenpo Karate Dojo located at 443 East Main Street in Bradford, Pa from 6:00 – 6:45pm.  We will talk about the program during the seminar for those who are interested.  If you are unable to attend the seminar, but are interested in the program call me at 814-368-3725 or e-mail me at michael.miller@millersdojo.com.

 

About the Author:

 

Michael Miller is a self-defense and personal protection expert who holds a 4th degree black belt in American Kenpo – a modern practical self-defense system, and also teaches boxing, kickboxing, Joe Lewis Fighting Systems, and Gracie Barra Jiu-Jitsu.  He’s an ex caseworker for McKean County Children and Youth Services where he worked with child development, child abuse and neglect, assessing risk, and became certified in the state of Pennsylvania as a Child Welfare Direct Service Worker.  He’s an authority on bullying and how to prevent it and has been featured in Inside Kung-fu and Black Belt magazines numerous times as an expert in his field.

 

 

 

The 12 Rules of Practice

To become good at something it requires an extreme amount of practice.  To become great it requires even more.  Practice can be viewed in many ways, but ultimately it is the repetition of becoming all that you are capable of becoming.  Notice that the professional athletes practice much more than the amateur ones!  It’s vital.  Without proper practice you will not progress in what it is you are trying to achieve. You will never be perfect, but you can make progress everyday.  If you strive for perfection you will fall short.  If you strive for progress you can achieve it.  Give 100 percent effort 100 percent of the time.  No exceptions.

Since I am a martial arts instructor this is what I firmly believe in.  I follow the same code of conduct that I expect out of my students.  I follow everything mentioned above and my students are required to do the same.  Wynton Marsalis wrote the 12 Rules of Practice and I figured for this article I would share that with you.

The 12 Rules of Practice by Wynton Marsalis

1. Seek out private instruction. It could take years to figure out what a good teacher can show you quickly.

2. Write out a Schedule. Include fundamentals always.

3. Set Goals. Chart your development. Challenge yourself.

4. Concentrate. Develop the ability to FOCUS. Do not just ‘go through the motions’.

5. Relax. Practice Slowly.

6. Practice the Hard parts Longer. Confront your deficiencies.

7. Play with Expression. Give yourself over to what you are doing. Do everything with the proper attitude. Do not be a cynic. The attitude you play with is your style.

8. Learn from your Mistakes. Don’t be too hard on yourself. Resolve to improve each day.

9. Don’t Show Off. Expression, not tricks and gimmicks. Showing off misses the point of group playing.

10. Think for Yourself. Respect your teacher, but think things through for yourself.

11. Be Optimistic. How you feel about living is who you are.

12. Look for Connections. The more you find similarities in things that seem different, the greater the world you can participate in.

Children get an Edge in Life with Karate

Children are our future.  It’s important that they learn the values that will help them be a driving force in the lives of others through positive influence and decisions.  Although parents “should” be instilling proper values in their childrens’ lives, the truth is that children are exposed to many other sources that generally go against what their parents are teaching them.

While you as a parent might be teaching your child to share with others, you child is viewing many other children who refuse to share.  Your child then becomes confused and can be easily influenced to mimic the other children who aren’t acting in the manner in which you want your child to act.  Education and role modeling is vital.

Other sources children get exposed to outside of other children and other adults include, television, video games, books, internet, and so on.  One of the greatest ways to get your children to live up to the values you want to see in them is to get other adults and children to emulate those values.  We all want our children to have respect for others, to be kind, to share, to have good manners, to care about others, to get their homework done on time, to do their chores, to listen and follow directions, and so on.

Children learn best through copying what they see – modeling (social learning theory).  Enrolling your child in a good martial arts program is one of the best ways for your child to learn about respect, discipline, self-control, kindness, focus, health and fitness and much more.

I came across an article a friend of mine (5th degree black belt) wrote about children and Karate.  For this blog I decided to share the article with you.  It’s a great article.

–Michael Miller

Here it is:

Children get an edge in life with karate.

By Jonathan VanCleve

Karate lessons for children have steadily increased in popularity since the mid 1980′s. Today, a large segment of the world’s martial arts practitioners are children, but it hasn’t always been that way. With the influence of television and motion pictures the martial arts have gone from being mostly a pastime studied by adults to include children as young as four.

The number of children who study karate is growing each year and this amazing growth is a testament to how well the martial arts positively impacts children’s lives. It is safe to say that children’s karate is not just a fad that will fade away with time but a permanent part of American culture and child development. I wouldn’t be surprised if one day qualified martial arts teachers were given permanent positions in elementary schools because of their uncanny ability to teach and influence children.

Some may wonder how exactly does a martial arts school get such great results from children? Can learning kicking and punching, activities that might be considered bad behavior, help children develop better behavior and increase self-esteem? To answer these questions all we have to do is look at the philosophy of the martial arts and how it’s traditions, exercises and codes of conduct are structured to not only develop the students physical abilities but to shape their character as well.

The power of influence:

Children are very impressionable and they tend to imitate what they see. The people around them influence their behavior. Musicians, actors, neighbors, or even cartoon characters have the power to influence children and these outside influences can be either negative or positive, depending on the message. A person on TV or even their own peers can make it seem cool to smoke cigarettes, use bad language, or do poorly in school and if that is the messages they are getting from people they admire the temptation to go along is very strong.

The influence of a martial arts teacher and fellow students is very positive. In the martial arts things like respect, goal attainment, and physical fitness and enthusiasm are valued. It’s considered cool to be respectful to ones elders and to get good grades. When a child’s role models and peer group are all doing positive things they have a better chance of making good choices when it comes to how they are going to behave and what they want to be like. The influence of the martial arts deeply impacts a child’s behavior and gives them a positive model of respect and self-control.

Learning to believe in your self:

Martial arts schools have very high standards for children regarding behavior and performance. To advance in rank the children are required to meet a set of standards for conduct, attitude, attendance, and performance. As children earn their ranks they are empowered with a sense of accomplishment and an attitude that they can do anything they put their minds to.

Learning new skills and achieving advancements in belt rank translates into better test scores and more completed homework assignments. By earning their ranks they also learn that they have to work hard to make their dreams come true and that they have the power to earn the things they want rather than thinking that things will be handed to them. This is empowerment for life and they are never too young to learn.

Physically fit for life:

Martial arts classes are very good exercise and children need to exercise just as adults do. Children can easily become obese especially when sedentary activities like video games and television are so entertaining and sugar filled foods taste so good. The martial arts stress the importance of physical fitness and good eating habits and high-energy workouts are a big part of the training.

Good eating and exercise habits learned in the martial arts can stay with a child for life and even set the course for their health as an adult. Some kids who are active and have no weight problems today can become overweight in their adolescence so it is important to make physical fitness a way of life at an early age.

Self-defense:

A martial arts class consists of lots of punching and kicking but the student is taught to only use their skills only for self-defense. They are taught to refrain from aggressive and negative behaviors and to practice self-control. As they learn to control their actions and attitudes they become capable of responding appropriately to the problems of life.

Bullying has become such a problem that it has been addressed in congress. It’s an unfortunate fact that most kids experience some kind of bullying. Children who study a martial art are poor targets for bullies. When a child knows how to defend himself or herself it is very difficult for a bully to hurt his or her feeling or person, they are not bothered as much by teasing and most bullies wouldn’t try to hit a child they know can fight back, bullies usually leave these kids alone and target a less -confident child who’s feeling are easily hurt and cannot fight back.

R.E.S.P.E.C.T:

In a world where being clever is valued over being kind children in the martial arts are taught self-respect and to respect others. Good martial arts students are unlikely to participate in bullying other kids or being disrespectful to their parents because respect and etiquette is emphasized in all martial arts classes. The martial arts school is one place where disrespect and misbehaving is not allowed. Words like “Yes sir.” And “No ma’am.” Are a regular part of the interaction between the instructor and the student, and the respect isn’t demanded as much as it’s given because of the admiration the kids have for their instructor and that same respectful behavior is soon demonstrated at home and school.

No matter what your reason is for enrolling your child in a martial arts school it’s a great way to teach some very important attitudes and skills that go a long way to giving a child an edge in life while they become self-disciplined and confident young ladies and gentlemen who possess the determination become a success in whatever they do.

Jonathan VanCleve is a 5th degree black belt and a professional martial arts instructor. Jonathan is also a columnist for Ma Success magazine and the manager of Nackord Karate System in King of Prussia Pennsylvania. You can contact him at jonvancleve@hotmail.com and http://www.karate99.com.

Taking a Stand on Local Terrorism

This is an interview article I conducted with Guardian Angels’ founder Curtis Sliwa for Inside Kung-fu magazine.  They were about to publish it when they closed their magazine down for good.  Since it didn’t get published there I wanted to share it on my Web site.  It’s a great article about local terrorism and Mr. Sliwa provides some great tips on how to tackle these problems.

Taking a Stand

Guardian Angels Founder Curtis Sliwa Provides Ways to Prevent Local Terrorism

Interview by: Michael Miller

INTRODUCTION:

Violence is an everyday occurrence around the world.  We read it in the newspapers and see it on the news daily. Rapes, murders, kidnappings, school shootings, assaults, and bullying are among the common problems we face as citizens in our communities. Perpetrators lurk the streets, schools, and internet creating havoc and increasing the fear we have for our children’s safety.

Curtis Sliwa has made a serious impact on deterring world violence since 1979 while living in the Bronx and watching his city deteriorate through drug and gang infestations.  He knew he had to do something to clean up his streets, so he took an active approach and created the Guardian Angels—a voluntary, weapon free program to take charge by patrolling the streets and making citizens arrests to create a safer environment.

The Guardian Angels began with thirteen people and has grown immensely over the past thirty years.  Aside from constantly patrolling the streets, the Guardian Angels provide education for everyday citizens to take responsibility for their environment. In this interview Sliwa talks about some of the problems we face and what we as citizens can do as preventative measures.

INSIDE KUNG-FU: Local Terrorism such as bullying, school shootings, gang violence, harassment, assaults, and abductions seems to be happening everywhere.  Can you explain why these kinds of activities occur in our society?

CURTIS SLIWA: I think today, because the way young people are brought up, they are exposed to this at younger and younger ages. There’s less supervision at home; less supervision in the community; so, often times, when they either become a bully or they become a victim, they do so at a much, much younger age and there is no intervention.  Nobody is telling them that’s right, or no it’s wrong.  [These negative behaviors are] also promoted by the culture: the rap videos, the hip hop videos, the videos that they see even from people who are successful in the business world.  They brag about how they bullied their way to the top. Like on the ‘Apprentice’ with Donald Trump. ‘You’re fired’, ‘You’re Fired.’ So they see this from the most successful people; they see this in sports, with people talking trash on the basketball court. So it just begins to affect every aspect of their life. Bullies always seem to become number one second to none and if you give into a bully, and as a victim, you just become a human speed bump.

IKF: How can we as citizens stop people from bullying us, and how can we keep from becoming a bully?

CS: I think in terms of the role modeling effect, human beings in general have to show far more humility.  We’ll call it the agony of defeat and the exaltation of triumph.  Too often now we dance on somebody’s grave; we exalt in their pain and their suffering.  We do this on so many different levels.  We need to understand the young people are absorbing all this so we have to show some humility, we have to be humble; there’s almost none of that around.

Simply at a young age we have to do intervention when we can see that a young person clearly is being affected by outside sources or the dysfunction of the home that they’re coming from. Either so much so they become inhibited, they’ve lost self-esteem, they’re introverted, or they themselves have imitated what they’ve seen and become a bully, because it’s very empowering and very exciting. So either or we have to intervene and we have to enable them to be able to change and yet still feel some of those things that excite young people.  That’s really the trick in all of that.  You know, how do you replace the excitement of being a gang member, a thug, bullying people where they’re very empowering?  You need to find something that is going to replace that and yet help them become a protector instead of a predator.

IKF: What is cyber bullying and what does it entail?

CS: Cyber bullying is just an extension of what we have seen in the school yard; what we have seen in homes across America, in neighborhoods, in parks.   And that is where young people will end up taking advantage of other young people and now can do that anonymously from the comfort of their own room.  In front of their computer or terminal they can take on various aliases, have different e-mail addresses, and now can search the networking sites.  They can literally almost stalk you, whether it’s tweeting on twitter, whether face booking, whether posting messages on message boards and virally sending images out that might be very disturbing in terms of what they are attempting to do to another person. It’s almost like a form of psychological warfare.

Cyber Angels is able to conduct that intervention, bring it to peoples attention, outsource a solution to people who deal with the subject matter—people who deal with both the victims and the bullies of cyber stalking and cyber bullying, and try to remedy it so that it doesn’t happen again; so these same people who are either victim or predator don’t fall into the same set of circumstances that triggered their either negative or passive response to begin with.

IKF: The internet seems to be a critical tool for perpetrators and bullies.  What are some things people can do to prevent their children from being bullied or targeted by these perpetrators online?

CS: First off, the main thing is to have an open line of communication with your child.  You don’t want them to just be a good news bear.  You want them to tell you bad things—the things they see.  The whole concept, if you see it, say it. Encourage the child, because they are facing an extraordinary array of pressures, an extraordinary array of peer group pressure that basically boils down to snitches get stitches and end up in ditches.  The idea is that you don’t rat anyone out.  In fact if you’re a victim, they have so perverted it, if you are a victim of bullying whether it be cyber bullying or regular old fashioned bullying maybe you deserved it because you were a punk, you were soft, you were weak.  So instead of people attempted to escape that, figuring out a way out of it, their believing that they are weak anyway and it’s survival of the fittest.

Naturally online it’s even more difficult, because a lot of parents and grandparents and adults are a dollar short and a day late when it comes to their computer skills and the kids can basically bounce rings around them when it comes to operating on the internet, or even operating on social networking sites or texting, or using any of these wireless technology that’s available.  And that’s the problem; parents, grandparents, young adults, they know about old fashioned bullying, but it’s very difficult for them to get a grip on cyber bullying and that usually impacts on children, girls, women, you know those who are most vulnerable.

IKF: Perpetrators lurk in schools, neighborhoods, streets, subways and the internet.  What can be done to identify these kinds of people and how can we as citizens take a stand?

CS: First off they have to be outed.  They cannot be allowed to remain anonymous.  They cannot be allowed to be able to operate in the shadows.  In fact, many of these bullies, those who become leaders of groups who commit these kinds of violations against humans, whether it’s cyberspace or in the normal realm of streets or neighborhoods, they do so and they get a vicarious thrill about organizing others to go out and do the deed.  They need to be outed.  Obviously, we need to put peer pressure on them and make it completely uncool to do it.  And then because some of them love to be a rebel without a cause and they love to be bad, because bad in their mind, according to the sub culture is good, then there has to be commiserate penalties.

If you’re found guilty of committing these violations you either have to face incarceration, or you’re gonna have to face spending some juvie time, or your gonna have to face some serious consequences that require you to go to counseling and then to reciprocate back to the victims or to the community by doing massive amounts of community service.  So we gotta make their lives miserable.  Right now it’s not.

IKF: It seems that the martial arts have played a key role in Guardian Angels training.  Can you explain your thoughts about the martial arts and the involvement they have had with the Guardian Angels?

CS: The martial arts has been a key when taken from it’s old school ways, which is the influence that I had from watching the seven samurai, which eventually was made into the magnificent seven, an American western that was based on the seven samurai:  Those who could defend themselves, but then offer their services to the defenseless—those who could not defend themselves.  The idea was that if you had these skills, if you were adept in martial arts and self-defense that you would use those skills not just in defense of yourself, but in defense of community and everyone else and not necessarily ask for anything in return; a form of selfless service.

Unfortunately, martial arts in the United States has gotten away from that old concept because in America everything epitomizes the individual—I and me.  They don’t think teamwork—us and we.  I have taken the concept initially that others had carried on, by applying the martial arts to group self-defense; protecting those who cannot defend themselves: the elderly, the women, the children.

Taking it to a whole different level, I would say that was the initial roots; whereas in America martial arts has become for the most part very much I and me.  You’re in the ring.  You’re testing your skill against an opponents’ skill.   And although there’s team competition and you might be part of a dojo or you might be a part of a participatory exercise that involves group techniques, it’s really all about you—all about the individual.  I try to stay away from that.

IKF: What kind of martial arts training do you have Guardian Angels go through?

CS: Because we have groups now in 14 countries and 140 cities, we first find who might be available locally in that community to conduct the training.  We have a set training program that involves the fine things that men, women and young adults have to be able to learn.  Let’s say in the case of Sean Kelley.  Here it is Kenpo.  This is his skill.  He moves to Florida from Pennsylvania.  He’s establishing his credentials in the martial arts world there, but he’s also living in a community that’s experiencing increasing crime.  He comes in voluntarily to offer his service, to volunteer and patrol, but he has the accreditation in Kenpo to actually teach others and after looking at the program and figuring out what in Kenpo we could use to help train the local group.

We allow the martial arts instructor to utilize their own form of martial art, those techniques that might actually be applicable to our training program which is pretty extensive.  It’s got two hundred and thirty six pages.  A lot of it deals with physical self-defense and conditioning and group defense.  But then there are other things like citizens arrest procedures, CPR and first aid, and role playing and simulation.

There are Sean Kelley’s all over the world.  Some of them are accredited in Kung-fu, some are accredited in Jiu-Jitsu, and some have been fighters, boxing and wrestling.  There is no one particular martial art or type of self-defense that is preferred.  What we say is, whatever your proficient in, whatever you are accredited in, as long as you can apply what you know of your particular form of self-defense to the training manual and you’re willing to give the time and supervise the training and be a role model and example, we say go for it.

IKF: The Guardian Angels believe in Inter-activism.  Could you explain this concept?

CS: We’re like an open book.  You want to see what we do, how we do it, feel free to do it at any point.  We don’t prevent people from understanding what we do and how we do it.  We encourage people to get involved and that’s where the interaction takes place.  We don’t care who you are: black, white, Hispanic, Asian, male, female.  Everyone is going to be treated equally.  Clearly we’ll give some people opportunities to participate because they have had problems in the past maybe with drugs or alcohol, or they’ve committed a crime or have been dysfunctional.

We give them an opportunity to rectify all that by becoming a guardian angel member, which is unique because there are a lot of groups who won’t do that.  We want to have partnerships with existing organizations whether it’s a boys club, girls club, social service organization, martial arts academy, we want to have as many partnerships in what communities we have a presence in as possible because we understand we don’t have the answer.  We are just one option in a wardrobe of options that people can have access to if they decide they have had enough and they are going to get involved and they want to fight back and they want to do it within the parameters of the law.

IKF: How can people get involved with the Guardian Angels?

CS: The first thing is they have to go to the website www.guardianangels.org to see if there is an existing chapter in their area around the world in the fourteen countries, one hundred and forty cities.  And if there isn’t then obviously e-mail us about the possibility to begin an effort in establishing the guardian angel move.  Those groups range from areas as diverse as Mexico City (population 20 million) to little rural subjects in Western New Jersey (population 4,000) with no police department. It has nothing at all to do with the size of the community whether it’s a urban area, suburban or rural area, whether it’s in the United States or anywhere in the world.  It’s all about whether there is one person who is going to make the difference.  That’s all we need to start—one man or one woman.  If they’re willing to motivate themselves, do the heavy lifting, carry the efforts forward we will give the tactical air support for that.

IKF: It seems that many people complain about violence, but never want to take an active approach to deter it from happening.  What do you say to these people?

CS: Well they’re paralyzed in fear, apathy and indifference.  They don’t think that their participation in anything is gonna make any difference.  They become very jaded, very skeptical, and I understand.  They are also paralyzed because we live in a society where everyone is afraid of getting sued and losing every nickel, dime and penny.

In thirty one years we have done tens of thousands of physical interventions to break up fights and disputes to send people on their own way and it doesn’t necessitate getting the cops involved.  There’s been thousands of citizens’ arrests where we do get the cops involved because we have to physically detain a suspect and turn him over to law enforcement. And in all those years we’ve never once been sued.  In reality use the skills that you’ve been trained with and stop worrying about litigation or sued or losing every nickel, dime and penny you have, because that’s the kind of paralysis that keeps people from getting involved and making a difference.

About the author:

Michael Miller is an expert in self-defense, personal protection, personal development, and fitness.  He has been involved with martial arts for over twenty years and currently holds a 4th degree black belt in American Kenpo (one of the leading systems of self-defense), and also studies and teaches boxing, kickboxing, Joe Lewis Fighting Systems and Gracie Barra Jiu-Jitsu (no Gi).  He has been featured several times in Inside Kung-fu and Black Belt magazines as an authority in his field.  He runs the only full-time martial arts studio in the history of Bradford, Pa (Miller’s Kenpo Karate Dojo), which is also the only full-time studio in McKean County. He can be reached through his web site at www.millersdojo.com, through e-mail at michael.miller@millersdojo.com or by phone at 814-368-3725.

Qualities of a Good Teacher

Being a teacher is a skill.  Being a good teacher requires even more.  Since I am a martial arts instructor I have seen many teachers of the martial arts who have been horrible teachers, and I have seen those who have been great teachers.  Also, being a college graduate (Bachelor of Arts in Writing with a minor in Sociology) I have had some great professors and some not so great professors.

My entire life through school I have had some awesome teachers who were great role models as well as those who were just there for a paycheck. Since I teach martial arts to all ages (4 and up), this article is going to be focused on martial arts instructors and what it takes to be a great teacher of the martial arts.

The reality is, just because you are a black belt doesn’t mean you can teach; and just because you can teach doesn’t mean you are a “good” teacher.  The five primary things required to be a good martial arts instructor are: passion, charisma, personality, patience, and education.  Aside from those five, the instructor must lead by example by being a good role model.  There are other things that will certainly help, but if the instructor doesn’t have all of these, he will not be a good martial arts instructor.

Many instructors take on the “bow down to me” attitude where their ego is so large they can’t fit through the Dojo doorway.  Although respect is a must in the martial arts, many instructors get on power trips.  If you are thinking of joining a martial arts school, avoid those ego maniacs.  They are phonies.  If an instructor thinks he is the toughest person on earth and everyone should bow down when he walks by, that person has issues and there is no way he can help you in your life.  That person will only brainwash you and could get you seriously injured someday, if not worse.

To be a good teacher of the martial arts, the instructor first and foremost must have passion.  She must be passionate about teaching the martial arts.  If she doesn’t love the subject that she teaches, neither will her students.  Without passion there is no way an instructor can be successful at helping martial arts students reach their full potential.

Charisma and personality tie in together.  It’s the instructor’s personality that has the most impact on whether or not he has charisma.  Charisma means that he has that quality that draws people to him.  He’s very likable and vibrant.  Just by talking with him, he is motivating and enthusiastic.  That is charisma. His personality (or character) must be positive and understanding, kind, and empathetic.  He must truly care about those he is teaching and must provide the motivation to assist students on their journey.  He needs to be humble, real, down to earth, calm and a good sense of humor.  He must also be a good communicator, which stems from communication skills and social skills.  He needs to be positive, think positive, and live positively. A good martial arts instructor is open minded and creative.

Patience really ties into personality as well, since it is a personality trait.  If the instructor doesn’t have patience, she shouldn’t teach.  It’s not the profession for her.  In the martial arts, if your instructor doesn’t have patience, get out of there.  Part of learning the martial arts is to learn how to have patience, self-control and self-discipline. Children learn best by the social learning theory (modeling behavior) and they will automatically look up to their martial arts instructor.  If the instructor lacks patience and clearly shows disgust or anything close to that, it is sending the wrong message to the children.  Another part of martial arts training is to improve self-confidence and self-esteem.  If the instructor makes people feel like they are inadequate or are failures, the students’ self-esteem and self-confidence will become even worse.

Education is vital. In martial arts an instructor must be fully educated in the particular style of martial arts he is teaching.  That’s just a start.  That education he received needed to come from a fully qualified instructor – not the internet, a DVD, or belt by mail program.  Although the internet and DVD’s will help educate an instructor, going through the long process of hard training as a student provides the appropriate experience one needs to be an instructor.  It’s important to research and know your instructors’ background.  If your instructor can’t provide valid evidence of his background get out of there. An instructor must also be educated in the different types of learning.  Not all people learn the same.  Some are visual learners, some are audible learners and some are tactile learners.  In other words, some need to see it to learn, some need to hear it to learn, others need to feel it to learn.  It’s vital for an instructor to teach according to all three learning styles so that each student can learn appropriately.  Being educated in child development is also a plus.

Martial arts instructors play the role of educator, leader, role model, counselor, therapist, disciplinarian, coach, friend, mentor, and more.  It’s a very important role to have and if the instructor doesn’t have passion, charisma, personality, patience and education he will not be able to fulfill all the roles a martial arts instructor needs to fulfill.

About the author:

Michael Miller is an expert in self-defense, personal protection, personal development, and fitness.  He has been involved with martial arts for over twenty years and currently holds a 4th degree black belt in American Kenpo (one of the leading systems of self-defense), and also studies and teaches boxing, kickboxing, Joe Lewis Fighting Systems and Gracie Barra Jiu-Jitsu (no Gi).  He has been featured several times in Inside Kung-fu and Black Belt magazines as an authority in his field.  He runs the only full-time martial arts studio in the history of Bradford, Pa (Miller’s Kenpo Karate Dojo), which is also the only full-time studio in McKean County. He can be reached through his web site at www.millersdojo.com, through e-mail at michael.miller@millersdojo.com or by phone at 814-368-3725.

Building Self-Confidence

Self-confidence is vital in our lives.  Our confidence in ourselves dictates how we walk, talk, and act.  It is an important element to our success in life.  Self-confidence deals with whether or not we believe in ourselves.  Do we believe we CAN accomplish the things we are out to accomplish, or do we have doubts for some reason or another?

“Recent studies (Peixe, 2009) show that self confidence is something you act on, not something you learn. There are a number of practical exercises that are said to help anyone achieve the level of belief that allows them to take action and pursue their objectives.”  — wikopedia site

Building self-confidence is about action, as stated in the above paragraph.  If you feel you need better confidence in yourself, this article will help you.  Here is a little write up from the site: www.confidencemanual.com

People who are self confident are those who acknowledge their capacity to do something and then proceed to do these things. They do not rely on the approval of other people in order to affirm their existence. It is enough that they know they have the capacity and the potential to do something, and the guts to do it no matter what others may say. People who are self confident take advantage of the opportunities that comes their way.

Lack of self confidence is not proportional to a person’s abilities. In fact, there are people who are extremely talented and able but they lack self confidence to show these abilities.

If you are wanting in self confidence, then you must continuously do things that will help you gain confidence.

Identify your strengths and weaknesses and capitalize on that. Make full use of your strength and gather positive points. This will help you gain self confidence. Do not expect everything to be perfect because you are bound to do something wrong along the way. Nobody is perfect and everyone is culpable of making mistakes.

Acknowledge your abilities and talent and take stock of them. Do not under estimate yourself. Try to recognize every little thing you have done which has become successful. Try to learn a new skill, and try to learn new things as this will make you a better person.

Look for things that make you feel good about yourself. It can be photos of past achievements like when you won a race or won a debate; it can be a poem you wrote which was published in a book. Concentrate on things that you have achieved and take it from there. This will give you more confidence to do other things in life.

Developing self confidence is not easy especially if you do not think highly of yourself. If you want to be self confident, avoid things that will discourage you from gaining confidence. Do not dwell on past mistakes or failures because it will make you feel insignificant. Being a defeatist will not give your confidence a boost.

Better yet, concentrate on the positive things that you have done and accomplished and make them your inspiration. In time, you will have more faith in yourself, and hopefully, more confidence.

Here is a great article I found on pickthebrain.com.  It’s written by the editor.

10 Ways to Instantly Build Self-Confidence

1. Dress Sharp

Although clothes don’t make the man, they certainly affect the way he feels about himself. No one is more conscious of your physical appearance than you are. When you don’t look good, it changes the way you carry yourself and interact with other people. Use this to your advantage by taking care of your personal appearance. In most cases, significant improvements can be made by bathing and shaving frequently, wearing clean clothes, and being cognizant of the latest styles.

This doesn’t mean you need to spend a lot on clothes. One great rule to follow is “spend twice as much, buy half as much”. Rather than buying a bunch of cheap clothes, buy half as many select, high quality items. In long run this decreases spending because expensive clothes wear out less easily and stay in style longer than cheap clothes. Buying less also helps reduce the clutter in your closet.

2. Walk Faster

One of the easiest ways to tell how a person feels about herself is to examine her walk. Is it slow? tired? painful? Or is it energetic and purposeful? People with confidence walk quickly. They have places to go, people to see, and important work to do. Even if you aren’t in a hurry, you can increase your self confidence by putting some pep in your step. Walking 25% faster will make to you look and feel more important.

3. Good Posture

Similarly, the way a person carries herself tells a story. People with slumped shoulders and lethargic movements display a lack of self confidence. They aren’t enthusiastic about what they’re doing and they don’t consider themselves important. By practicing good posture, you’ll automatically feel more confident. Stand up straight, keep your head up, and make eye contact. You’ll make a positive impression on others and instantly feel more alert and empowered.

4. Personal Commercial

One of the best ways to build confidence is listening to a motivational speech. Unfortunately, opportunities to listen to a great speaker are few and far between. You can fill this need by creating a personal commercial. Write a 30-60 second speech that highlights your strengths and goals. Then recite it in front of the mirror aloud (or inside your head if you prefer) whenever you need a confidence boost.

5. Gratitude

When you focus too much on what you want, the mind creates reasons why you can’t have it. This leads you to dwell on your weaknesses. The best way to avoid this is consciously focusing on gratitude. Set aside time each day to mentally list everything you have to be grateful for. Recall your past successes, unique skills, loving relationships, and positive momentum. You’ll be amazed how much you have going for you and motivated to take that next step towards success.

6. Compliment other people

When we think negatively about ourselves, we often project that feeling on to others in the form of insults and gossip. To break this cycle of negativity, get in the habit of praising other people. Refuse to engage in backstabbing gossip and make an effort to compliment those around you. In the process, you’ll become well liked and build self confidence. By looking for the best in others, you indirectly bring out the best in yourself.

7. Sit in the front row

In schools, offices, and public assemblies around the world, people constantly strive to sit at the back of the room. Most people prefer the back because they’re afraid of being noticed. This reflects a lack of self confidence. By deciding to sit in the front row, you can get over this irrational fear and build your self confidence. You’ll also be more visible to the important people talking from the front of the room.

8. Speak up

During group discussions many people never speak up because they’re afraid that people will judge them for saying something stupid. This fear isn’t really justified. Generally, people are much more accepting than we imagine. In fact most people are dealing with the exact same fears. By making an effort to speak up at least once in every group discussion, you’ll become a better public speaker, more confident in your own thoughts, and recognized as a leader by your peers.

9. Work out

Along the same lines as personal appearance, physical fitness has a huge effect on self confidence. If you’re out of shape, you’ll feel insecure, unattractive, and less energetic. By working out, you improve your physcial appearance, energize yourself, and accomplish something positive. Having the discipline to work out not only makes you feel better, it creates positive momentum that you can build on the rest of the day.

10. Focus on contribution

Too often we get caught up in our own desires. We focus too much on ourselves and not enough on the needs of other people. If you stop thinking about yourself and concentrate on the contribution you’re making to the rest of the world, you won’t worry as much about you own flaws. This will increase self confidence and allow you to contribute with maximum efficiency. The more you contribute to the world the more you’ll be rewarded with personal success and recognition.

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Follow these steps and you will build your self-confidence instantly and can enjoy a healthier, happier life.  Keep in mind that children need to be confident so be sure to educate your children in how to do so.  One of the things to build confidence mentioned in the article was working out.  One of the best forms of working out is martial arts.  Martial Arts build confidence quicker and better than anything else.  It’s been proven time and time again.

Remember, actions produce confidence!

Michael Miller

www.millersdojo.com

michael.miller@millersdojo.com

2009 Bullying Statistics

Bullying is a major problem throughout the U.S.  This is an addendum to my first article about bullying.   You will also find many future articles about this topic, since bullying has lead to several young suicides and, for others, severe depression.

Some people believe that it won’t happen to them or their child.  Honestly, bullying is extremely common and I guarantee it will happen to your child.  I am certain it has happened to you several times.  I know it has happened to me more than I can count; even as an adult.  The good news is I knew how to handle it.

First off, there are things you can do to prevent yourself from being bullied in the first place.  Confidence is the main ingredient to making bullies turn the other way.  Your body language, attitude, and how you conduct yourself all play a role.  The problem is many people don’t have that confidence and conduct themselves in such a way that they become victimized.  So how do you get that kind of confidence?  It’s simple: learn how to protect yourself.  It’s a great feeling walking around knowing you don’t have to worry about being attacked.  Bullies can read this.

Although you might not be a target for a bully it still doesn’t guarantee that you won’t become bullied.  So your second step is knowing how to deal with bullies.  You need to know how to diffuse the verbal harassment and how to physically handle a bully if he attacks you.  If you learn the three T’s of dealing with verbal harassment, you will be able to implement them and will put a stop to the bully.  You must also understand the rules of engagement when dealing with bullies.

At Miller’s Kenpo Karate we teach children and adults all of these things.  They learn the three T’s to verbal harassment and also learn the rules of engagement (five steps to take).  We instill real confidence by teaching effective training methods and movements, along with the proper mindset.

To prove how bad bullying is, I have included the statistics of 2009 for bullying, which were mentioned in an article written by researcher John W. Sheridan.

Here are some School Bullying Statistics from 2009 Surveys:

*Over 75% of our students are subjected to harassment by a bully or Cyber-Bully and experience physical, psychological and/or emotional abuse.

*Over 20% of our kids admit to being a bully or participating in bully-like activities.

*Over one half of bullying & Cyber-Bullying events go unreported to authorities or parents.

*In 2009 surveys showed over 100,000 children carried guns to school as a result of being bullied.

*28% of students who carry weapons in school have witnessed violence in their homes.

*On a daily average 160,000 children miss school because they fear they will be bullied if they attend classes.

*On a monthly average 282,000 students are physically attacked by a bully each month.

*Every seven minutes a child is bullied on a school playground with over 85% of those instances occurring without any intervention.

*46% of males and 26% of females admit to having been involved in physical fights as a result of being bullied.

*Over 85% of our teenagers say that revenge as an aftermath of being bullied is the leading cause for school shootings and homicide.

*The top 5 states in regards to reported incidents of bullying and Cyber-Bullying are California, New York, Illinois, Pennsylvania, and Washington.

*A child commits suicide as a direct result of being bullied once every half hour with 19,000 bullied children attempting to commit suicide over the course of one year.

As you can see from the school bullying statistics listed above it is indeed a serious problem that must be addressed whenever discovered.

Unfortunately, as indicated above, most instances of school bully activity go unreported by the student victims.

This makes it very difficult for teachers or parents to intervene on behalf of the victim and provide the proper counseling needed for the victim as well as the bully.

A relatively new type of bully, the Cyber-Bully, is relevant in schools as well as home and is a growing concern for parents when trying to protect their kids from this form of abuse.

Cyber-Bullying is the harassment of kids through the use of the internet and filters into the schools when kids return to classes.

It is so serious that over one third of our kids who frequent the internet are victims of the Cyber-Bully.

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I will have a separate article in the future about Cyber-bullying.  Notice that Pennsylvania is one of the top 5 states for bullying.  You CAN do something about it.  Although most school systems have adapted the zero tolerance rule, meaning that any students who get into a physical confrontation both parties will be suspended.  That’s good in one way that it prevents some physical bullying from happening, but not so good in other ways.  It still doesn’t prevent all of it, and it doesn’t stop any of the verbal harassment.

Michael Miller (Reality based self-defense expert)

www.millersdojo.com

814-368-3725

michael.miller@millersdojo.com

Honoring Your Instructors

When you become a martial artist you feel like you are part of an elite group–and you are.  As a martial artist you are in for an amazing road of self-discovery and self-improvement.  On that road you will find setbacks; roadblocks that everyone deals with on their journey in life.  As a martial artist you will take these setbacks and welcome them as a challenge, a challenge that you know you will defeat.

The most important people who guide you on your martial arts journey are your instructors.  They teach you, guide you, mentor you, challenge you, inspire you, respect you, honor you, and enjoy watching you blossom into an extraordinary individual.  Some people take that for granted.  Some instructors don’t fulfill their role, and some students don’t appreciate who their instructors are and what they have done for them as individuals.

I am writing this article to honor those who have taught me and have inspired me to become the person I have become in the martial art world.  I have many parents (of children I teach) tell me often how impressed they are with my teaching abilities and how I really care about my students growth.  Although I am proud that they recognize this, I am a product of my own upbringing.  I care because my instructors have cared.  I am well educated because my instructors educated me.

First off, I have had many teachers who have done a lot for me.  Those I mention in this article are those who have done the most to mold me into who I am as a martial artist and a teacher.  I will mention those who I consider my primary and secondary instructors and those who have inspired me, but aren’t my instructors.

First let me be clear in stating that my ultimate teacher is my lord and savior Jesus Christ.  I will never be ashamed of my faith.  God has created an amazing life for me and He is who paved the path for me in meeting and training with my instructors.

The person who has impacted me the most on my martial arts journey as my direct primary instructor is Sean P. Kelley.   Although I didn’t begin my journey with him, my Kenpo and my teaching abilities grew tremendously ever since he became my instructor.   He has taught me many things and on many levels.  Without Mr. Kelley I would still be mediocre at best.

Other people who have impacted me greatly who I consider to be my secondary instructors include: Grandmaster Michael Robert Pick, and Master Rainer Schulte.  Mr. Pick is hard core.  He’s the real deal.  I have been fortunate enough to have trained with him several times (and many more to come).  He has inspired me to think on a different perspective and has really helped me with the combative side of Kenpo.  Mr. Schulte is a great guy.  I have a close relationship with him and have learned a lot from him as well.  I have taken several classes under him and they are educational and get you in pretty good shape.

Other people in Kenpo who aren’t my instructors, but have inspired me include:

Grandmaster Dave Hebler

Bob White

Richard Post

Ed Parker Jr.

Although uncle Dave has taught me on a few levels, I haven’t trained with him in awhile.  I became one of his certified instructors for the Gift of Power Foundation (educating, empowering and teaching women self-defense) but that Foundation has now become a martial arts organization, rather than the protecting women organization that it used to be.

Mr. White has such an amazing charisma and teaching ability.  I have never been on the floor with him, but he has helped me with the ways I view teaching by inspiring me through e-mail conversations and by introducing me to the great John Wooden’s concepts.

Mr. Post is another hard core reality guy.  I don’t believe in fantasy and Mr. Post has also educated me on some reality when it comes to self-protection.

Ed Parker Jr. is an awesome person.  I am honored to have gotten to know him.  He has inspired me in many ways.  I enjoy just having a conversation with him.

Aside from American Kenpo, I also have other teachers who have inspired me greatly.  This includes the legendary Joe Lewis and the great Bill “Superfoot” Wallace.

I have been training with Mr. Lewis directly since 2007, but have been studying his system since 2004.  He has inspired me tremendously.  His teaching methods are amazing.  I love his system (Joe Lewis Fighting Systems).  It’s a great system to cross train in as a Kenpo guy.  Nobody has broken fighting down as scientifically as Mr. Lewis.   He has done a lot for my sparring.

Mr. Wallace, although not really considered my instructor in any way, I have trained with him several times since 2007 including one private lesson.  He has a great sense of humor and has also taught me a lot in terms of sparring.

So, to all of you, I want to say thank you so much for making me who I am in the martial arts world.  I care about my growth and that of my students and without you guys I would be nothing.

TCB!

Although I don't have a picture of all my instructors with me, here is one I am in with Mr. Kelley, Mr. Pick, Mr. Lewis and Mr. Wallace!